savannah44 (savannah44) wrote in step_parenting,

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Advice about Soon to be Step Kids and my wedding?

Advice about Soon to be Step Kids and my wedding?  
 I and my Fiance' have been together 1 1/2 years, I've been divorced 3 1/2 years, he 2 1/2 years... His X has had a man in her life the whole time they have been apart.  His kids seemed to really like me and want me around until we recently got engaged and are getting married in January.  He has 4 kids, 21 boy, 18 girl, 17 boy, 14 girl.  The boys are fine, they are like... "We like that you are happy now Dad... whatever you want is cool with us."  The girls however are another story.   His oldest is very manipulative and tries to control him like her mom used to, and the youngest is pretty much following in her footsteps.

My dilemna is this.....   I am very close to my daughters 18 and 21 and want them to be my bridesmaids... My fiance' understands that and understands that I don't really want to have his dauthers as bridesmaids since they don't want us to be engaged or get married, but he is having a hard time deciding what to do about groomsmen.  I think he should have his sons do that.. and I thought of his oldest daughter doing a bible verse during the ceremony and his youngest being in charge of the guest book or something like that....  It seems like the boys shouldn't miss out on getting to be there for their Dad just because the girls will be mad.... What do other people think?  

The groom doesn't traditionally get to pick the bridesmaids... right??

I'm kind of miserable now when it should be a very happy and fun time instead of feeling dread.....  

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